Part 1 of the Four-Part Series: Reclaiming Your Voice After Narcissistic Abuse
This post marks the beginning of a new and deeply personal four-part blog and podcast series called Reclaiming Your Voice After Narcissistic Abuse. As a somatic trauma-informed coach and survivor of narcissistic abuse myself, I created this series to support women who are ready to take their power back—one truth, one boundary, one breath at a time.
We’re starting right here, where it all begins for many of us: the moment you realize you've lost your voice… and the journey of finding it again.
Silenced, Slowly
For a decade, I was in a relationship with a man who appeared to be the perfect partner—charming, successful, well-liked in the community. But behind closed doors, he was controlling, manipulative, and emotionally abusive. A malignant narcissist.
From the outside, our life looked picture-perfect. But inside our home, I was being erased.
There were subtle “rules” that silenced me over time—like not pointing at him in public (so people wouldn’t think we were arguing), or not being allowed to share anything that happened in our home. It was classic image control. And while it may sound small, those restrictions grew into a complete loss of autonomy, voice, and identity.
The Dangerous Power of Isolation
I’m an empath. I’m intuitive. My gut screamed at me many times in the beginning. My body knew something was off. But I brushed it under the rug—because I had no support system to reflect my reality back to me.
He’d isolated me from friends. He told me I shouldn’t share “our private matters.” And because I didn’t, I couldn’t get outside perspective or support. All I had was his version of reality—and it was deeply warped.
That’s how narcissistic abuse works. They erode your truth drop by drop, until you don’t even recognize your own voice anymore.
Financial Control, Emotional Collapse
At one point, I was convinced to leave my job, start a business (which he supported—on the surface), and even cash out all of my retirement savings to “invest” together. When he asked for a divorce just months later, I was left with nothing.
No savings. No job. No credit. No plan.
But I walked away anyway. Because somewhere deep inside, I still had a spark of voice left—and it said: GO.
What Reclaiming My Voice Really Looked Like
It didn’t happen overnight. I didn’t just magically feel empowered once I left. In fact, I still questioned myself. I experienced lingering trauma, complex PTSD, chronic pain, and anxiety for years after.
But I started to heal by validating my own truth. By journaling. By speaking out—first in private, then in public. By learning to trust my body again.
I realized that reclaiming your voice starts with believing yourself. Even when others don’t. Even when it’s hard. Even when you’re terrified.
Why I’m Sharing This Now
Because I know I’m not alone—and neither are you.
If you’ve ever felt silenced, manipulated, or made to question your reality, I want you to know: You are not crazy. You are not weak. You are not alone.
This series, Reclaiming Your Voice After Narcissistic Abuse, is for every woman who’s ready to rebuild her truth and step back into her power.
What’s Next?
In Part 2, I’ll be joined by an incredible guest, Tina, who will share her insights on how narcissists subtly (and not-so-subtly) break down boundaries—and how we can begin to rebuild them with intention and strength.
You won't want to miss it.
Until then, I invite you to reflect on this:
👉 When did you first realize you were silenced—and what helped you begin to reclaim your voice?
Feel free to share your thoughts. Your story matters. Your truth matters.
You have the power. And your voice is yours to reclaim.