You've mastered success everywhere except love
You're not broken—your patterns are.
Let’s fix what’s actually driving your
relationship cycles—so you can stop
attracting the wrong men and start
experiencing the connection you crave.
Own Your Standards. Raise the Bar.
Watch What Changes.
Because real love doesn’t require you to shrink.
Still Not Happy in Your Relationships
—Even After Doing All the Work?
You’re successful, smart, and driven.
But when it comes to love, you keep asking yourself:
If you’re tired of over-giving, overthinking, and overcompensating
just to feel enough in your relationships…
It’s time to stop fixing them and start reclaiming you.
My name is Darla Ridilla and I help
high-performing women remember who
the hell they are—so they stop chasing
love and start attracting what aligns.
If this sounds like you
You’re constantly questioning your worth when things don’t work out
You feel anxious in relationships but scared of being alone
You’ve sacrificed your peace to keep the peace
You’ve spent years in toxic cycles with narcissistic or
emotionally unavailable partners
Then something has to change.
Darla Ridilla
Certified Somatic
Trauma-Informed Coach
Here’s how we do it together:
As a Certified Somatic Trauma-Informed Coach, I help you get
beneath the surface—beyond mindset hacks and into deep,
lasting transformation.
Together, we will:
Break the unconscious
trauma bonds that keep
pulling you back into the
same dynamics
Rewire your nervous
system so you feel safe
choosing healthy over
familiar
Heal the root wounds
that make you
tolerate crumbs
Set rock-solid
boundaries
without guilt
Rebuild your self-worth so love feels like freedom
—not a performance
Something for Everyone:
Join the Sisterhood
The Self Love Sisterhood is an exclusive,
high-touch mastermind for women who are
ready to stop settling, break the cycle of
overgiving, and step fully into their worth.
90-Day Reinvention
A private coaching experience for high-achieving women ready to break toxic relationship patterns and attract emotionally available love.
You Have the Power: The Road to Recovery from Trauma and Narcissistic Abuse is a bold podcast for high-achieving women who are done settling in love.
Hosted by Darla Ridilla, certified somatic trauma-informed coach and survivor of narcissistic abuse, this show uncovers the real reasons you feel stuck in relationships—so you can finally break the cycle.
Through raw stories, nervous system tools, and unfiltered truths, you'll learn how to stop chasing love and start attracting connection that honors your worth.
It’s time to reclaim your power in love—starting with yourself.
Testimonial:
I came to Darla feeling so stuck in taking a huge
leap to begin my own business. She helped me
see where my fears were and how I could
navigate them in ways that served me and my
potential clients. She was very patient and was
able to tie all of my rambling thoughts together in
a way I hadn't been able to. She was also gentle
with my fears, in a way that was validating and
compassionate. It was just the shift I needed to
overcome this hurdle and I'm now feeling able to
make the progress I want.
Thank you, Darla!
Jayme