You’ve mastered success in every area—
except the relationships that matter most.
You’re not too much. And you’re definitely not broken.
But the patterns you’ve learned to survive?
They’re keeping you from the connection you actually want.
It’s time to stop tolerating dynamics that dismiss, drain, or distort you—
and start choosing relationships that respect your power.
Speak your truth. Raise your standards.
Watch everything change.
You’ve done the work. So why do your relationships still feel so hard?
You’re successful, smart, and driven.
But when it comes to your relationships—something still feels off.
If you’re tired of over-giving, overthinking, and contorting yourself just to keep the peace…
It’s time to stop fixing broken dynamics—and start reclaiming the woman you were never meant to hide.
My name is Darla Ridilla—and I help high-achieving women stop shrinking themselves in relationships and start standing fully in their power.
This isn’t about chasing love.
It’s about attracting connection that actually honors who you are.
If any of this hits home…
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You want real connection—but keep ending up in surface-level dynamics.
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You’re tired of being breadcrumbed, ghosted, or dismissed.
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You’ve traded your peace just to avoid confrontation.
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You’ve stayed too long in relationships—romantic, professional, or family—that drained the life out of you.
Then it’s time for something to shift.
Darla Ridilla
Relationship Coach
for High-Achieving Women
Here’s how we do the real work—together:
As a Certified Somatic Trauma-Informed Coach, I don’t give you surface-level fixes.
I help you get to the root—so you can break the patterns that keep you stuck and create real, lasting change in every relationship.
Together, we will:
Break the trauma bonds that keep dragging you back into the same exhausting dynamics.
Retrain your nervous system to feel safe choosing what’s healthy—not just what’s familiar.
Heal the deep-rooted patterns that taught you to settle for less than you deserve.
Set radically clear boundaries—without guilt, fear, or over-explaining.
Reclaim your power so love, connection, and respect stop feeling like a performance—and finally feel like freedom.
This isn’t about fixing you.
It’s about coming home to the version of you that was never broken.
You’re not here to perform, please, or prove.
You’re here to lead, to connect, and to live from your truth—not your trauma.
Ready to stop repeating the same patterns?
The shift begins with you. And it starts now.
You Have the Power: The Road to Truth, Freedom, and Real Connection is the podcast for high-achieving women who’ve been told they’re too much — and are done shrinking to be loved.
Hosted by Darla Ridilla, certified somatic trauma-informed relationship coach, this show helps you unravel the hidden patterns keeping powerful women stuck in cycles of self-abandonment — in love, family, work, and beyond.
This isn’t about fixing you. It’s about freeing you.
Each episode blends raw truth, nervous system-based tools, and bold conversations to help you stop performing for approval and start leading from deep self-trust and radical boundaries.
Because you’re not too much — you’re just done accepting too little.
It’s time to reclaim your voice, your energy, and your relationships. The road starts here.
Testimonial:
I came to Darla feeling so stuck in taking a huge
leap to begin my own business. She helped me
see where my fears were and how I could
navigate them in ways that served me and my
potential clients. She was very patient and was
able to tie all of my rambling thoughts together in
a way I hadn't been able to. She was also gentle
with my fears, in a way that was validating and
compassionate. It was just the shift I needed to
overcome this hurdle and I'm now feeling able to
make the progress I want.
Thank you, Darla!
Jayme